( Check out Part One of this blog post on http://blog.mpowerwomen.co.ke)
The “girl child” a phrase only came into existence to coin the movement around young female development & empowerment– a progressive movement in the just the last two decades that needed a catchy phase to garner more support and traction against the resistance from the male dominated economic & business community. The “girl child” came about because there was a need to make way, a road as such, for girls to be allowed to grow up as independent and empowered women; entitled to equality of purpose, choice and capability both socially and economically as their counter gender.
The male gender for centuries has dominated the workplace, politics, economic leadership of every country in the world bar none to the extreme of being the overriding ruler over the females in their homes including having more rights over their body than the women themselves. In less advanced societies it is customary for males to have the only right of inheritance over their mothers or grandmothers. Feminists/ Suffragettes and their male sympathizers had opened the door but it took the behavior change movement of the “girl child” to really get the ball moving and pull attention to the real challenges women faced in life where the “old boys club” or the such, put up invisible glass walls / ceilings and doorways to women both socially and professionally.
Now the audacity of people to talk about “the boy child” needs MORE support?? I agree men and women alike deserve attention and equability in policy making and empowerment. However, the argument that we should pull the breaks on the “girl child” to push the agenda of the “boy child” is ludicrous.
I ask the “old boys club” who are so busy self-promoting and driving their personal agenda’s why have you forgotten to raise your son or daughter? Why have you shirked your responsibility to doctrine the male youth with morality, true ambition, INTEGRITY and good behavior.
Why is there a huge rate of single mothers matched by the growth of drunks, male arrests, domestic violence etc. SIDE NOTE: Women who keep having children you cannot afford and have no financial assistance so you are working / struggling more than investing good quality time in your children please I beg of you STOP and use protection, think twice before having three children with the lying or cheating or violent man who hasn’t paid a bill in years. Please stop teaching our young men and women in your home that a mother’s role is to provide everything.
To the men who believe it is a woman’s job to raise a family – wake up! Smell the coffee – get to the breakfast table and ENGAGE with your family – take up the real role of fatherhood be better examples for the “boy child”
The girl child movement has broaden the scope of players competing for recognition in the political and economic arena of employable people. Women have always had to work harder to earn their right and this holds them in good stead when being examples for their daughters. Men for generations had entitlement on their side & in truth the numbers of good male role models are decreasing rapidly. Unfortunately our mothers of today occasionally still raise them this way to believe they are better, stronger, more deserving, required to look after the woman in their life just because they were born Male. Perhaps this should change and the male gender need to be taught that to eat, live, survive they need to hunt, build and plan ahead without the unspoken expectation that as son you will inherit or be given unconditional support. It’s a change in motion and soon men and women alike will know they are the creators of their destiny and no one is out there to save them, look after them or pay bills for their partner…
The transformation where a woman is free and safe to be a woman will be the natural ending of the “girl child” conversations & activities. When a woman can go for walk in greenwood drive in Nyali ALONE without fear, without men in small IST’s with heavily tinted window do not slow down and leer lewdly in the creepiest fashion, when a woman is free to dress as she pleases without fear of reproach, harassment or worse rape is when the “girl child” will be no more. She will be a woman free to be whomever and whatever she chooses.
This boy child is an illusion. The boy child has the road to success at his doorstep – it was built in the dark ages and now is a superhighway. The girl child is walking but a simple cabro road with patches of murram so under developed is her pathway. What the boy child needs is get moving, studying, practicing and competing with the mindset we are all equally entitled and no one is more deserving.
The girl child exists because her parents and their parents built the “male success superhighway ‘and they more than anyone need to be educated to allow both male and female children to be treated equally with respect and privilege. I look forward to the day that e workplace, politics, economic leadership of every country have 50% women then we can rethink the GIRL CHILD conversation!
Just my thoughts..BELOVED
(Feminist, Motivator, Thinker, Marketer)
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